Over the years I have met many souls who have quit church. Their reasons for doing so are varied, but a common theme is that in some way they have been hurt by the people at church. It very well may be that you are one of those who have been burned in such a way. If that’s you, please accept my deepest apology. I don’t want to make any excuses, because, in truth, there are no excuses for harmful behavior, especially among God’s people. I pray that you can find it in your heart to offer forgiveness to those who have troubled you and that they will realize their error, and resolve to do better in the future.
That being said, I would like to offer a couple of points for your consideration. First, God’s people are just that: people. We’re not perfect. If we were we wouldn’t need Jesus. Sometimes we make mistakes. Sometimes we say and do things that we shouldn’t. When that happens, I would like to ask for the same grace that you would want. “Whatever you want men to do to you, do also to them” (Matthew 7:12). That also means that we understand you’re not perfect either.
Second, I would urge you not to give that kind of power over your life to others. Being hurt, well, hurts. I get it. But by letting that pain keep you away from the church is giving those that harm you power over your own destiny. Take that power back. The church isn’t about being perfect. It’s about admitting that you aren’t, and coming to Jesus with love and appreciation for what He has done. It’s about asking the Great Physician to heal your soul and prepare you for a home in Heaven.
That’s why we’re here. That’s why we want you here with us.
Would you consider giving church another try with us?
Minister, Itasca church of Christ